Gone are the days of yore when a man would call a woman on the telephone to ask her to accompany him somewhere nice on a certain date at a specific time. Instead, the reality of modern dating is noncommittal text messages, group dates and “hanging out.” It’s mostly “blah, blah, blah, guys suck” with some pseudo-intellectual analysis peppered in to keep up appearances.
Now anyone can enjoy the perception of desirability, thanks to online-dating sites that convey your intentions and put you within arm's reach of thousands of people. If you’re a girl on an online dating site looking for attention, of course you’re going to get lots of messages. If they’re noncommittal and less than impressive, that shouldn't be a surprise either. When you cast a wide net, you’re bound to come up with a lot of crap.
Dating Network in India
In a society as conservative as India, women shun away from dating sites because of the public exposure of profiles and fear of strangers.
Here comes a new dating service network where total anonymity is promised. They don't use a public website, no phone numbers and no contact details. You may be wondering how you can get into this network. The simple answer is, "You can't !" . Unless someone in the network already invites you in with the approval from network managers.
All contacts are made through emails and after a meeting has been arranged, they may or may not ask for a phone number. If all goes well in the first meeting, you can opt for exchanging contact details or walk away as if nothing has ever happened.
They claim to have a network in all major cities in India. The contacts are only available to a few chosen ones.
I was able to contact a network administrator who calls himself "C" (C stands for cupid). From him, we learnt that they accept men who are really "good at something". He also offered me some invitation codes.
Me: Tell me about how you operate?
C: "The tastes for women vary" says C. "Some like supermodel type men. Some wants to be with a gentleman. Others are into geniuses, writers and most of them prefers a "boy next door" character. We have all kinds of quality gentlemen. They are not gigolos. They just like to be adventurous. Most of the time you don't even have to pay them. They are not normal people like you and me. They lead a secret life which is exactly what we want. We call them G's " Later I learnt that 'G' stands for Gods.
C: "And for the women, we use secret invitation codes. Existing members can invite other women. Its the women who chooses the men. They can specify what kind of men they want and we will find them a suitable gentleman. No identity is ever revealed. We have many celebrities in our network and we can't take risk. So the process for joining the network is a closed one".
Me: "How do you use the invitation code?"
C: "Just send it to one our emails and we will contact you back. But finding an email of a C is very difficult."
They also claim that, none of their member details have ever been leaked in three years of their operation.
Opinions
"It's not always about sex"; says Anju (Pune) who works in the busy IT industry and had a chance to try this new kind of dating service. "You get to meet some guys with real quality and what more do you want if they treat you like a princess?"
"My perception of dating has changed and its fun to hangout without worrying about the society. No-one knows you are using a dating service." Namitha, single mom and business woman. (Kerala)
"You can find all kinds of men. Want a male friend who expects nothing in return and takes care of you? Want someone to watch a movie with? Want a party buddy who can pick you up and drop you at anytime during the night? Want a romantic getaway or a candle light dinner? Feeling kinky? They got you covered. The best thing is, you get to choose for different moods and I like choices without being judged." Anamika (Delhi)
"Why not?" asks Catherine an expat from UK who is living in India for the past five years. "Its time Indian woman starts using technology for having fun. You do it everywhere in the world and I like the men in this network. You can't tell whether they are a gigolo or not. But the whole experience was magical."
"I like making new friends and this is perfect for me. They don't expect anything from you, even real name. I can be me with my friend." Neha, student from Bangalore
Verdict
Apparently lots of women are attracted to the idea and the network is growing. The secret nature of this network makes it inaccessible to the masses. That's the idea anyway!
Disclaimer: No real names are used in this article
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